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Last summer we lost our precious little yorkie Jack to kidney failure. After Christmas we again had to make the painful decision to say goodbye to our sweet girl Paris. Many know the pain and heartache of losing their beloved pets.
The following is an excerpt from an article written by Frank T. McAndrew, professor of Psychology, Knox College.
When people who have never lost a dog see their dog-owning friends mourn the loss of a pet, they probably think it’s all a bit of an overreaction; after all, “it’s just a dog.”
 
However, those who have loved a dog know the truth: Your own pet is never “just a dog.”
 
Many times, I’ve had friends guiltily confide to me that they grieved more over the loss of a dog than over the loss of friends or relatives. Research has confirmed that for most people, the loss of a dog is, in almost every way, comparable to the loss of a human loved one. Unfortunately, there’s little in our cultural playbook – no grief rituals, no obituary in the local newspaper, no religious service – to help us get through the loss of a pet, which can make us feel more than a bit embarrassed to show too much public grief over our dead dogs.
 
Perhaps if people realized just how strong and intense the bond is between people and their dogs, such grief would become more widely accepted. This would greatly help dog owners to integrate the death into their lives and help them move forward.
 
What is it about dogs, exactly, that make humans bond so closely with them?
For starters, dogs have had to adapt to living with humans over the past 10,000 years. And they’ve done it very well: They’re the only animal to have evolved specifically to be our companions and friends.
 
Anthropologist Brian Hare has developed the “Domestication Hypothesis” to explain how dogs morphed from their grey wolf ancestors into socially skilled animals that we now interact with in very much the same way as we interact with other people.
 
Perhaps one reason our relationships with dogs can be even more satisfying than our human relationships is that dogs provide us with such unconditional, uncritical positive feedback. (As the old saying goes, “May I become the kind of person that my dog thinks I already am.”)
 
This is no accident. They have been selectively bred through generations to pay attention to people, and MRI scans show that dog brains respond to praise from their owners just as strongly as they do to food (and for some dogs, praise is an even more incentive than food). Dogs recognize people and can learn to interpret human emotional states from facial expressions alone. Scientific studies also indicate that dogs can understand human intentions, try to help their owners and even avoid people who don’t cooperate with their owners or treat them well.
 
Not surprisingly, humans respond positively to such unrequited affection, assistance and loyalty. Just looking at dogs can make people smile. Dog owners score higher on measures of well being and they are happier, on average, than people who own no pets at all.
 
Our strong attachment to dogs was subtly revealed in a recent study of “misnaming.” Misnaming happens when you call someone by the wrong name, like when parents mistakenly calls one of their kids by a siblings name. It turns out that the name of the family dog also gets confused with the human family members, indicating that the dog’s name is being pulled from the same cognitive pool that contains other members of the family.
 
The loss of a dog can also seriously disrupt an owner’s daily routine more profoundly than the loss of most friends and relatives. For owners, their daily schedules – even their vacation plans – can revolve around the needs of their pets. Changes in lifestyle and routine are some of the primary sources of stress.
 
It’s no wonder dog owners miss them so much when they’re gone.
I understand that this heartbreak is not exclusive to those who have lost dogs. I share this because it fits my own particular experience. It’s also what caused me to realize this is a needed ministry for all those who have lost their beloved pets.
As a member of the Worship Ministry, I thought it important to find a way for First Central to respond and support those experiencing this grief. We have available resources for services and burials for your animal family members. Please contact Scott or me if you would like to know more about how we can help you in your time of need.
–Susan Fortina, Worship Ministry Chair

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